If you have fingers, you can make love. It’s that simple. Lesbians have known this forever. And most teenagers explore fingering as a precursor to what they consider ‘real’ sex. As most women do not orgasm simply from clitoral stimulation, fingers are a far more effective means of providing full satisfaction, every time.

People normally just use fingering as a dipping test, as in ‘is she wet enough to penetrate yet?’ There may be a bit of clit diddling before penetrating. But so many people have simply forgotten how much fun fingering can be.

Guide to help you to become a fingering virtuoso.

Positions:

Every woman has a different shape and feels comfortable providing access in different ways. The main thing about her position is to ensure she is comfortable and relaxed. One of the easiest positions for her comfort and your access is on the edge of the bed on her back or front, with her legs bent at the knees and spread. Then you can simply pull up a chair, relax and start having fun.

A really intimate and fun position for those who are comfortable is to have her lie in your lap, facing away from you. She can pull her legs apart, even wrapping them around the outside of yours, giving you the ability to spread her further by using your own legs. Then, you have access to her vagina as if you were getting yourself off. Experiment and discover what works best for both of you.

Start Gently

When you use fingers on a vagina, they are rougher and harder than your tongue is. And they don’t come with natural lubricant. Clitoris, particularly, are very sensitive both to pain and pleasure. So make sure that not only have you clipped your nails and filed them but that you’re using plenty of lube.

Start with a lot of teasing and even better, start when her clothes are still on. Touch her, rub her and tease her over her clothing and then, as you undress her, give her a taste of what’s to come over her panties. Gently stroke her cunny and use the ball of your hand to press her clit area in a circular motion. If you start feeling her getting wet through her panties, you know you’ve done something right.

Clitoral Stimulation:

Assuming you know your way around a vagina (and if you don’t go and learn before attempting to play with one), start by teasing her outer labia. Stroke the area between her outer labia and thighs, the soft area between her vagina and her butt and gently tease the bottom part of the entrance to her hole.

When you are sure she’s ready, use the fingers of your dominant hand to give her clit your full attention. Touch it, tease it, rub it and stroke it until you find a direction, speed and technique that makes her wild. If you’re not absolutely confident you can read her body, ask her. Let her tell you what she’s liking and one you discover that, don’t stop doing it for very long because that is what will get her off.

While one hand is busy on her clit, you should start exploring her, hopefully, very wet hole with your other hand. Start by teasing the hole. Let her thrust towards you to tell you when she’s ready for penetration. Using one finger, explore inside gently. For most women, one finger isn’t enough for the whole experience. So when she seems ready or says she’s ready or just begs you to do it, try a second. And possibly, if she’s aroused and open enough, a third.

Finally, when she climaxes, do not stop touching her immediately. She may climax for longer or have multiple orgasms if you continue. Let her guide you on when to stop and remove your fingers from inside her slowly and gently. Just remember, practice makes perfect. Before you know it, you’ll have mastered the fine art of fingering.