As women, we seem to worry about almost everything and anything. Often some of our fears are irrational while others are real. Sex can pop up memories, emotions and sweet feelings, but it can also be associated with anxiety and fear. There are so many insecurities that women have in relation to sex and intercourse. The worst is that we are unable to open up and discuss about them.
The lack of discussion and proper knowledge often lead to myths about sex and we start getting scared of it. It is the fear within us, that can often make sex less enjoyable and pleasurable. Out of all the concerns and worries, the good news is that the anxiety and the fear related to sex is very common. The majority of the women have innate sex fears.
This article will reflect some of the common fears that every woman have regarding sex and intercourse.
1. Looking fat in her lingerie
This is one of the worst fears that every woman feels every time they are all set to set fire on bed. There was a time when I felt the same. I was newly married and wanted to do everything to impress my husband. Hence, I bought a few sexy lingerie to wear them at our wedding night. Though I knew my husband for so many years, but I still felt that all the fat was oozing out from our body. I didn’t feel comfortable at all. I guess looking fat on a naked body is a major concern for every woman out there.
2. Painful sex
Around 50% of the women are worried about painful sex and this is a very common issue that is found across the globe. Since there are so many things written and told about it, that the virgins are confused and fear about experiencing a painful sex. In reality, things are not so difficult, if your partner knows about your concerns and takes care of it.
3. Not being good in bed
This is one issue that bothers women and men as well. Women are scared that if they don’t give the top notch performance in the sexual act, their partner might leave them and go to some other woman in order to satisfy their sexual needs. The reality is that everything becomes perfect with practice and the same goes with sexual intercourse. As long as you have a good communication with your partner, you have actually won half the battle.
4. Not getting an orgasm
It is said that there are many who don’t experience orgasm from the intercourse alone. Will her partner understand her sexual needs and take the extra effort to satisfy her using other means like sex toys, hands or using the tongue and bring her to orgasm?
5. Bleeding
If you are a virgin and ready to move your relationship to a new level, bleeding is one concern that bothers her. Bleeding basically occurs due to the tear of the hymen. But often when your vagina is too dry, bleeding might happen. This is nothing to worry as it can be sorted by lubrication.
6. Getting pregnant
When I got started having intercourse, I was always bothered about getting pregnant, in spite of the several protection methods undertaken. I am sure this is one fear that is a concern for every woman out there who doesn’t want to get pregnant without planning.
7. What is the expectation of my partner?
Is your partner expecting you to perform like a porn star? This might be a reality or just your imagination. Don’t let the pressure and do something that you are not comfortable with. Are you scared that your partner be more interested in watching a porn rather than having sex with you? If required talk to your partner and get things clear.
8. What if I am not perfect?
You have to understand that sex is not something you can choreograph like in the movies. Sexual actions are natural and it is something that needs to be enjoyed and it is not perfect. Don’t let this fear get into your nerves and spoil the mood.
9. Upsetting your partner
When your partner asks you to try out something different during the intercourse, don’t take it as a criticism. Communicating with each other can help you both to discover each other’s desires and thereby you won’t have the concern of disappointing him.
10. Your partner not attracted to you
What if you get to see my stretch marks and my cellulite? Does my naked body attract him? What if he rejects me? These are some of the common fears that every woman feel and think about before sex or during the action.
11. What to do after sex?
You just had a sex with your partner. What should you do now? Should you cuddle? Should you talk to him regarding your experience or stare each other? Is it washroom times? There are so many options that can make you confused and scared as well.
Every woman undergoes such feelings related to sex. Thus, you shouldn’t worry too much. Enjoy sex as much as you can and make memories.